Advocate against domestic violence retiring
Once a sheepish daughter of an iron-fisted father and, later, a partner in an emotionally abusive relationship, Bourus would grow through the national women's movement to become an effective advocate for Palmetto State women and the face of domestic violence victims, her supporters say.
They joined other women's advocates as well as Bourus' family and friends recently at a farewell gathering in the Vista. Bourus retires at the end of the month after 12 years as director of the South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
"She's unrelenting, as a good advocate is," said Nancy Barton, director of Sistercare, which offers shelters to battered women and children in the Midlands. "Her quiet presence masks her strong, quite strong, personality."
Crime victim advocate Laura Hudson — herself no wilting flower — puts it more directly.
"We're a tag team. I was the bad cop and she was the good one. She's sweet and I'm not," Hudson said, breaking into her full-throated laugh.
Bourus' coalition is a trade group that does not provide direct assistance to women but coordinates resources as well as pushes for laws of particular concern to women. The coalition works with 23 organizations and provides training about violence against women and the fallout of the attacks to 5,000 people yearly, including judges, police and health professionals.
Bourus, 66, said she leaves her job and, she hopes, the state of women in South Carolina, better than she found it.
That is one of the tenets of her strict Catholic upbringing in a family of 10 children born to a traditional mother and an Air Force officer father that Bourus likens to the father character in "The Great Santini."
"South Carolina has a pretty miserable standing when it comes to women's rights," Bourus said in the State House lobby as she prepared once again to fight legislation she feels endangers battered women. "Violence against women and children is not on the front burner here."
Then she added: "It's better than it was 10 years ago. The victim-blaming mentality just had a lock on us. She's not doing something right, she's not a good enough wife, she's not sexy enough . that somehow he has a right (to abuse her) by his maleness. We're not beyond that now."
Bourus knows the pain, the isolation and the loss of control that abused women feel. She said she is a survivor of emotional and physical abuse by her father and was mistreated as a young adult.
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